Mindset & Goals, Motivation

Why Your Not Reaching Your Goals & How To Fix It

Chances are at some point this year you have said to yourself, “I want to do this___in 2020 or My goal is___.”  When it comes to expectations the majority of people think their progress should be more, their weight loss should be more, they should be stronger, faster, and well you get the point.  

Here’s the truth and how you can finally start reaching your goals! 

First, your expectations need to be realistic and lined up perfectly with your work ethic in order to achieve the results you desire.  Let me explain….

Let’s say you just started your fitness routine in 2020, well the truth is you are a beginner and should be considered a beginner for the remainder of the year.  Most people about 3 weeks into a routine will start to get disappointed because they haven’t lost as much weight as they expected to or maybe think they should be stronger, faster, more flexible, etc..

Your expectations when setting goals need to be realistic and by this I mean you need to give yourself enough time.  If you have not worked out in a year or two maybe or maybe never than 3 weeks is definitely not enough time.  Even 3 -6 months won’t be quite enough but if you stay consistent and put in the work over a long period of time (such as a year!) then you should expect to be in significantly better shape and probably even achieve that weight loss goal of yours!  We all want to achieve amazing things in a short amount of time but that is not how things in life work and fitness goals are no different.

In addition to giving yourself enough time we now need to talk about your work ethic.  If you join a gym and 3 weeks later are disappointed because you are not ‘in shape’ yet, but you only went to that gym twice in three weeks then your expectations and work ethic are way off base! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen this and had to real people back into reality.  Now let’s say you joined a gym and you consistently went 4-5x per week for this first month, the second month you went 1-2x per week but when you did show up you didn’t really work as hard as you could have. Problem 1… you are not being consistent and problem 2… you are only working at 1/2 your potential.

No matter how many times per week you workout if you are not putting in the effort and are just going through the motions you will not see the results you want.

Now let’s talk about the person who has been working out for a year or more.  If I see this person getting disappointed I ask…have they been coming to class consistently, do they put the work in, are they asking their coach for help?  If the answer to any of the questions is no then their expectations are a little unrealistic.  Once this client can answer yes to all of those questions they will quickly start to progress at a faster pace which usually equals a happier client.

This picture was taken 6 months post-partum, after consistent dieting and consistent workouts.

Whether your goal is to lose 50 lbs this year or hold to become more flexible you first need to put in the work and don’t expect yourself to achieve those things on Day 1 or even Day 60.  Everyone is in a different place in their fitness journey and everyone will achieve things at a different pace but everyone is in control of their consistency and work ethic, period.

If you set some new goals for yourself this year my advice to you is to ask yourself some of these questions.  Have you been consistent?  Are you working as hard as you can?  Could you be doing anything else to help yourself achieve your goals?  Are you being consistent?  Yup, I asked that twice because consistency is probably the most important factor when talking about reaching goals.

So the magic formula is this: consistency + work ethic= results.  Focus on the things you have control over and you will see results come much faster.  Set realistic expectations and you will prevent a lot of disappointment in your fitness journey.  The last piece of advice I’m going to give you is, write your goals down!  Seeing your goals on paper is very powerful but tracking your workouts and nutrition allows you to see exactly what you are doing in detail.  In your head, you might think you are doing everything you need to but write it down and then evaluate things because there might be a different story there.

Good Luck with all your goals whatever they may be this year!

3 thoughts on “Why Your Not Reaching Your Goals & How To Fix It”

  1. This is a great perspective! I started a new fitness journey a year ago, and completely agree with you about not getting disappointed after a month or two. I think everyone starting out has some sort of disappointment at one point, but with consistency you will see results. I am super proud of what I have accomplished in a year!

  2. Reading this is a good reminder of what I know inside. I just have to remember to act on being consistent and having a good work effort and make them “actions” rather than “ideas”. I guess that is my sign to get back to work toward my goals!

  3. I feel like I have done better with working out this summer because of the quarantine, but also because of having an accountability partner. We are checking in with each other on our fitness goals, which really helps!

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